How to maintain a long-distance relationship with your boyfriend: 13 BS-free tips that will help you maximize your chances for a happy ending!
Let’s be honest; a long-distance relationship is not something that any of us really want.
You can’t help who you fall in love with. So what if you have finally met THE ONE, but he lives far away from you? Or if you are in a happy relationship but suddenly one of you has to relocate because of work, and the other is unable to join them straight away? You probably wonder if it’s worth pursuing and if your relationship will survive the long distance between you.
Long-distance relationships are difficult, and they come with their unique challenges. They require a lot of trust, patience, and creativity. Maintaining a relationship with someone who lives far away is not easy, but by all means possible.
Below are a few tips that will help you make the most of this far from ideal situation.
SET CLEAR RULES AND BOUNDARIES
Rules and boundaries need to be in place in all relationships, but they are especially important when it comes to long-distance ones. You need to know what is considered acceptable and what is not by your partner and vice versa.
Some women, for example, have no issues with their boyfriends going to strip clubs with their friends, while others do.
The best way to avoid running into problems is if you both understand the boundaries of your relationship. Discuss with your boyfriend in detail what you each perceive as emotional and sexual infidelity.
Set some ground rules and be open and honest with each other regarding your expectations to avoid misunderstandings and disappointment.
DO NOT GO TOO LONG WITHOUT MEETING
Being in a long-distance relationship restricts the frequency of direct contact; however, you should try to meet your boyfriend whenever possible. Sometimes it may not be every week or even every month. However, try your best to meet as often as possible, even if it’s only for a short visit.
COMMUNICATION SHOULD BE REGULAR BUT NOT CONSTANT
Talking with your partner is obviously a vital part of this setup. However, there is a common misconception that you must be in touch all day. Non-stop communication can do more harm than good and come across as being possessive.
Anything you do excessively will eventually become not-so-special. In this case, less is more. You are not going to compensate for the distance by bombarding your boyfriend with messages and calls 24/7.
Focus on quality communication and do video calls whenever possible. Make sure the communication is not forced, and it happens because you both want to speak to each other.
There may be some days when you or your partner has had a bad day at work, are tired, or just busy. It’s better to skip one day instead of having a forced conversation just because it’s expected that you should speak every single day.
BELIEVE YOU CAN MAKE IT WORK
If you meet someone you like but live far away, don’t dismiss the possibility of making it work. There are times things will get rough, but don’t lose hope. These things happen in any relationship.
If you are confident he is the right person, you will get through it. It will be a test of how strong the love you have for each other is.
SEND YOUR BOYFRIEND GIFTS AND PERSONAL OBJECTS THAT WILL REMIND HIM OF YOU
Send your partner some small gifts that have special meaning once in a while. It could be something based on what you have discussed or a funny situation that happened when you were together.
You could gift him a personal object that will remind him of you, e.g., a bottle of your perfume that he could spray on his bed. When things get dark, or when he gets tempted to stray, these small things can provide reassurance and set things straight.
You could also hide small gifts at his place for him to find when you have left, which will make him feel like you are still there. It could be, for example, a cute photo of you left under his pillow.
DO NOT COMPARE YOURSELF WITH OTHERS
It is easy to judge your relationship using the standards set by other couples. Don’t compare your relationship with others as it almost always leads to disappointment. Plus, all relationships are different, and you never know the full story.
As long as you and your partner are happy, nothing else matters. Your relationship is unique and subject only to the standards set by you and your partner.
DEAL WITH YOUR DISAGREEMENTS THE RIGHT WAY
Sometimes you may disagree, as it happens in all relationships.
Be careful with your choice of words, and never disrespect your partner. If you are very upset, ask for some time and space but never block his number. Do not deliberately cut communication lines because you are offended. This will significantly reduce his trust in you, and it’s all downhill from there.
If possible, iron things out before going to bed and make sure your boyfriend is smiling before you end your conversation.
DO THINGS TOGETHER WHEN YOU ARE APART
Just because you are in different locations, doesn’t mean you can’t do things together. You can, for example, play an online game together, watch a film together via Netflix or have a romantic dinner while on a video call.
KEEP THE FLAME GOING
Sexual desire is one of the crucial parts of a romantic relationship. Keep the flame going by sending each other teasing messages filled with sexual innuendos and talking sexy with each other during your calls.
You could also send him a cheeky picture from time to time, but only if you feel comfortable with that. Just triple check you are sending that picture to the right recipient!
MAKE FUN PLANS TOGETHER
Talk about the details of what you will do the next time you see each other.
It can be visiting a new quirky bar or a restaurant, going for a hike and camping under the stars, visiting a theme park, playing a new cool board game or a cheeky card game for couples, having a cozy night in with candles, takeaway, and movies or anything else you like. This will create excitement and something for both of you to look forward to.
Don’t feel pressured, though, that you have to plan something extraordinary to make up for the time you spent apart. Do whatever feels right and natural.
You should also plan and book your holiday together in advance. Having something set in stone, i.e., reserved and paid for, will bring a refreshing wave of security and certainty into your relationship.
ENJOY YOUR LIFE OUTSIDE OF THE RELATIONSHIP
While long-distance relationships require some sacrifice, it’s important to find the right balance. Do not put your life on hold and deprive yourself of fun because you are dating someone who lives far away.
Enjoy the time you spend with friends and family. Don’t let your long-distance relationship make you feel lonely.
SPEAK UP IF YOU ARE UNHAPPY
Let your partner know if you are struggling with being apart, feeling insecure or jealous, and allow him to give you the support you need.
Your happiness is a priority and if, at any point in time, you feel like the relationship is becoming more of a burden, speak to your partner. Do not drag things out just for the sake of it.
Long-distance relationships are possible to maintain, but things could also go wrong just like with any other relationship. Make sure your partner knows how you feel.
MAKE SURE YOU ARE ON THE SAME PAGE
Long-distance relationships cannot last forever. They need hope for a happily ever after.
It’s therefore essential that when the time is right, you both agree that the long-distance setup is only temporary and put a plan in place on how you can eventually be physically together on a permanent basis, including realistic timescales. Make sure you are on the same page.
THERE ARE ALSO SOME BENEFITS OF BEING IN A LONG-DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP
- If your relationship survives, it will be strong and stable.
- The time spent apart will make your meetings more special. Even when you eventually merge your worlds, you are less likely to get bored with each other or take another person for granted compared to couples with no long-distance relationship history.
- It will allow you to spend more time with your friends and family and pursue your career, hobbies, and personal development as opposed to being consumed by the relationship. This will set a healthy foundation for the future of your relationship.
So, after all, it’s not all that bad!
In conclusion, distance should not be stopping you from finding true love. With the right commitment and communication, you CAN make your long-distance relationship work!
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